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Rebin and Khaleda never thought falling in love would force them into a life of hiding. At first glance their London flat looks like the home of any other newlyweds. By the front door, five pairs of his and her shoes are neatly lined up in a row and the kitchen fridge is plastered in little heart shaped magnets and private notes.
But for the 25-year-olds, this small and cramped one-bedroom apartment is the only place where they feel safe. Two years ago, they were forced to go on the run after gun-wielding members of Khaleda's family threatened to kill them.
For dozens of couples in Britain, such threats have become all too real. Police are now investigating more than 120 deaths they suspect of being "honour killings". It has been estimated 12 women a year die in Britain as a result of such terrifying acts.
The supposed "honour" comes from the claim among killers that they are protecting their family's reputation. Yet for those whose only crime is to have fallen in love, there seems little honourable about the threats being made against them.
The full horror of these killings was highlighted this month when the father and uncle of Banaz Mahmod, a Kurdish woman from South London, were convicted of murdering her.
Like Banaz Mahmod, Khaleda fell for someone members of her family did not approve of. She was born in the West Midlands to conservative South Asian parents who wanted her to marry a distant cousin from her ancestral village. Instead, she fell for the boy next door.
Their forbidden love sprang from fleeting glimpses through the kitchen window. "The first time I saw her she instantly grabbed my attention," said 22 year-old Rebin. "I thought she was the most beautiful person, so calm and innocent."
As a teenager Rebin had fled Saddam Hussein's persecution of the Kurds and had moved into the West Midlands street where Khaleda had grown up. Eventually, he plucked up the courage to talk to the shy but alluring girl next door.
Desperately in love the couple were shattered when Khaleda's parents flew her cousin to Britain to organise her marriage to him. As the cousin moved into her room and began the negotiations, Khaleda and Rebin simply eloped and married.
Any notion that a compromise could be reached was dispelled when more than 20 of Khaleda's family and relatives arrived at Rebin's father's house brandishing knives, machetes and guns.
Those most keen to kill Khaleda and Rebin were not the older first-generation family members who had been born and brought up in South Asia, but her brothers and cousins - young men who had lived their whole lives in Britain.
The UN says at least 5000 women a year are killed worldwide by their relatives in honour killings.
Khaleda is mortified that anyone might believe Islam justifies honour killings. "It has nothing to do with Islam," she said. "In the Koran it says a Muslim girl can marry anyone as long as they are a Muslim and it clearly states she has the right to say no.
"They make you believe it's justified by religion but it's not, it's cultural. Either way, I think forcing a girl to marry someone they don't love; it's like raping your own daughter."
Had it not been for the Iranian and Kurdish Women's Rights Organisation, a small charity in East London that helped them relocate, Rebin and Khaleda could have ended up like Banaz Mahmod. She had fled an abusive two-year marriage and warned police of the danger she was in. But still she died.
Khaleda is still too scared to leave the house and Rebin, who gets by working 60 hours a week as a driver, says he is always looking over his shoulder.
But they are convinced they did the right thing. "We fell in love," said Rebin. "We shouldn't be ashamed. How any parent can believe love is a shameful thing I will never understand."
- Independent
