Blair was four days into his new role in Otorohanga which was the family's first step in relocating but now they all sit holding tears back, wondering how to live without him.
More than 500 people attended the funeral at the Mamaku Memorial Hall which Kelly said she completely underestimated.
"He was such a giving man, he would give you the shirt off his back.
"Just talking with him, within a few minutes you would be his best mate, he was that kind of guy."
The pair met when Blair crashed her 15th birthday party and her parents quickly chucked him out.
They went their separate ways and had some children but fate drew them back together.
"It wasn't until 13 years ago when we had both gone through nasty divorces that my mum walked into Noel Leeming in Taupō and he asked for my number.
"The next weekend he came over and then the weekend following he was moving in.
"It was just meant to be."
Blair was a Jack of all trades who spent years as a salesman but any spare time was spent building "Phelps' Bar" in his garage or chicken pens for Kelly.
She said he was a bargain hunter but always looked out for everybody's safety when it came to the road.
"He was the most careful driver, you ask any of his friends. They would take off and he would be left behind because he didn't want to speed."
He leaves behind his children and their partners, Kadin, Chayne and Rayn Phelps, Brittany-Teagan Cutforth, Haydee Brogden, Jared Cottle and five-month-old grandson Charlie Phelps.
"He did everything for me and the kids so I allowed him to have the motorbike and maybe I shouldn't have," Kelly said.
But in reflection of it all, she is happy "he went out on something he loved".