And after a confronting conversation with his son put things into perspective, Mander knew it was time to turn his life around.
"I was talking to my wife and my son overheard me and on the way to school the next day, he said to me, 'Dad, I don't want you to die'," Mander told the Weekend Herald. "Honesty from kids is the harshest and best thing. Sometimes you hear things from a child, and as an adult, you think 'it is that easy isn't it? Just join the gym and get healthy' ... I changed my diet, cut out drinking, and made a lot of lifestyle changes."
It took only a few weeks for Mander to start seeing results but he soon realised he needed the motivation of a goal.
That's when he set his sights on Ironman.
"I watched [Ironman] on TV and I was always in awe of what the guys do and it's just incredible, the commitment and the ability for somebody to go for that long ... but I never ever thought it would be me," he said.
"The weight was coming off though and I was getting stronger and fitter, and thoughts of a triathlon kept coming into my head.
"My physio said I had to get a coach and I approached Andrew MacKay at Boost Coaching.
"I was looking at just doing the Mount [triathlon] but he said 'why not Ironman?'
"He gave me the push and made me believe I could do it. Now here I am ... training towards Ironman next March."
An amazing 37kg down and with a blood pressure so perfect the New Zealand Fire Service medical team ordered re-testing because they assumed the machines were faulty, Mander is astonished by what he's achieved.
Although admitting to being a little nervous for the race, Mander said all he wanted was to give it his best and that his journey would inspire others - before a medical scare had to do so.
"Nine months of hard work, pain and training ... I want to do really well and I want to do really well for me, I want to make sure I perform to the best I can.
"Some people are unlucky when they get a health scare, it can be too late for them to make a change. For me, I got it in time, I am not young, but at 46, it gave me the wake-up call I needed.
"I just [want] to motivate people who are thinking about doing something but have that self-doubt. Anything is possible, and I think that's the key. A lot of people think 'I'd love to do it' and that was me.
"It comes down to that self-want - if you want to do it, you do it. Nobody's making you do it, you've got to have that drive from within."