"My hero is my mother," he said, "good old mum. We were a separated family. But she was always there for us. Clothes, food, family. That was what was important for her.
"To this day she is still the hardest-working lady I know. She lives in Te Kaha - in the bush, no running water, no power," he said.
"My family always comes first. I love my family they keep me inspired."
Image 1 of 10: Barbara Kendall and Bill Henry 'Willie' Apiata VC presents Valerie Adams with her award for Sportswomen of the Year at the 2012 Westpac Halberg Awards. Photo / NZ Herald
Apiata said he was no longer in the army because he wanted to be there for his family.
"I have a partner, and two sons, a 10-year-old and a 1-and-a-half-year-old. They are what are important for me."
At the beginning of his chat to the students, Apiata gave out his medals to be passed around.
"By giving you these medals to see, to hold, you now share the burden of the VC and its mana," he said.
He ended his talk by saying, "If you take the centre of the flax bush away, where will the bellbird rest? What is important? It's the people, it's the people, it's the people."
Apiata is a former corporal in the SAS and received his Victoria Cross for bravery under fire in Afghanistan after carrying a gravely wounded comrade across a battlefield to safety.
Apiata has gifted all of his medals, including his VC, to New Zealand.
