Davidson herself quickly conceded the comments were unwise: “My intention,” she explained, “was to affirm that trans people are deserving of support and to keep the focus on the fact that men are the main perpetrators of violence.” Did that quell the paroxysms of rage and feigned victimhood? Not one bit. It was almost as if the reaction had less to do with an honest reckoning with family violence and more to do with putting an uppity woman of colour in her place.
During a lifetime in and around trade unions and Labour Party politics, you develop a pretty thick skin. Back in the 80s, if I had taken offence at every real or perceived slight, every ill-judged joke or casually hurled off slur, I wouldn’t have lasted a week. Even these days, I don’t think it helps to be hypersensitive or trigger-happy when it comes to calling that stuff out. Most Kiwis are pretty fair-minded and, in any case, wagging your finger at them is just as likely to make them redouble as rethink.
But don’t mistake that for nostalgia for some bygone era of free speech, by which its advocates these days really mean consequence-free speech. Chatting to an old mate recently, we grimly reminisced how Māori politicians were routinely and openly disparaged in the not-so-distant past, almost invariably as lazy. Once, a Pākehā MP who, traffic-depending, could drive from one side of his urban electorate to the other in under 20 minutes, loudly opined that his colleague Whetū Tirikātene-Sullivan “isn’t putting in the effort on the ground”, referring to her Southern Māori electorate that spanned Hastings to Stewart Island. On countless other occasions, the work ethic of everyone from Mat Rata to Koro Wētere to John Tamihere and Nanaia Mahuta was called into question in my presence. The disrespect ran deep. My mate, a Pākehā of just 19 at the time, recalled getting called up before the designated Māori Affairs researcher in the Research Unit after Labour’s defeat in 1990. “My qualifications? I passed School C Māori, albeit only just. Rocking up to our first meeting, sitting there was Koro, Whetū, Peter [Tapsell] and Bruce Gregory, each of them giants in their own way. Looking back, I’m amazed they didn’t just send me packing - instead, they politely took my gormless counsel and offered respect I had done nothing to deserve.”
But succumbing to hurt feelings was not a luxury leaders like Koro Wētere and Whetū Tirikātene-Sullivan could afford when our culture and language veered perilously close to extinction. This wasn’t about knowing their place but understanding the limits of their power. They, and generations before them, look down with wry amusement and, I hope, great satisfaction, as Marama, Nanaia, Hekia [Parata] and many others explore the limits of theirs.
Shane Te Pou (Ngāi Tūhoe) is a commentator, blogger and former Labour party activist.