“Just to acknowledge today’s the day,” he explained.
“It’s just a sad, sad day for them.”
In December 2019 Grace was murdered by Jesse Kempson, a man she had met on a dating app soon after she arrived in Auckland as part of her solo trip around the world.
“From a very early age, she wanted to travel and New Zealand was one of the places she wrote about,” she said.
In a double blow for the family, Grace’s father David Millane was diagnosed with cancer after spending almost three weeks in Auckland in December 2019 while attending the trial for his daughter’s killer.
He died in November 2020.
“He was taken unwell while we were at the trial but we just put it down to stress and we thought he had an ulcer,” Gillian said.
“I was in such a dark, lonely place and I pushed everybody away... Trying to find your path on this road of grief is a very difficult thing to do.
“You get to a point when you realise that you’re the only one that can get you out of there.
“I can say that my toes are always in the darkness and sometimes my feet and waist but my head is probably more in the sun now.”
Anna Leask is a Christchurch-based reporter who covers national crime and justice. She joined the Herald in 2008 and has worked as a journalist for 18 years. She writes, hosts and produces the award-winning podcast A Moment In Crime, released monthly on nzherald.co.nz