Paula Bennett in Parliament in 2018; she says there were pockets of sexual harassment and bullying, but it doesn't discriminate today based on gender. Photo / Mark Mitchell
OPINION
It is often said that women can be the hardest on other women; with a couple of pretty stark exceptions, I have found the opposite to be true. During my time in politics and now in the corporate world I have found the support of other women to be
encouraging and supportive. Fortunately, I have also had incredible support from significant men over my career. One of my goals this year was to do more to give back to women in different stages in their careers and I am finding it really fun and rewarding.
I have never fit neatly into a box when it comes to being a feminist and I am quite proud of it. I grew up in a male-dominated household with a father who believed there was one set of rules for boys and another for girls. He was a product of his time and has changed considerably over the years. I call him my resilience builder. I never accepted the different rules and challenged him and authority in my younger years – much to his delight as he did love a good scrap. It prepared me for a career in politics as I learned to debate and argue and persuade, and by the time I got there, there wasn't much that would faze me.
I once gave a speech as the Minister for Women in which I argued that Parliament isn't necessarily sexist. Yes, it is dysfunctional, and in the past (and unfortunately probably still now) there were pockets of sexual harassment and bullying but it doesn't discriminate today based on gender. The hours are really tough on mums trying to raise a family and be an effective MP – but it's also tough on dads. I had plenty of cruel comments about my weight and how I dressed but I could name male MPs who have also been subject to cruel taunts at different times. There may still be a bit of a boys' club, but there are times that I exclusively enjoy the company of women so my girls' club has been quite helpful over the years.