OPINION
It’s universally accepted that we New Zealanders are more divided than ever. Everyone has decided to spend election year spitting hate at each other. Social media is a cesspit. There’s no common ground or civility anymore. We are sliding into an abyss of Kiwi-on-Kiwi hatred. Or are we?
When I walk my dog in the real world, people smile, say hello and ask to pat him. There’s no politics in that. I go to the dairy for milk, and the owner is the nicest guy in the world. Zero division there. My workplace is full of people I look forward to seeing. My kids are great, their mother is incredible and my next-door neighbour is a top bloke. The staff at the bar down the road go out of their way to make me feel welcome. The place is packed with groups of friends who have met up to spend time together. Jump in an Uber, and you’re guaranteed an interesting chat with a good person. It doesn’t feel very divided when you are actually out there. It seems to me New Zealanders are hating each other more and more in Parliament and on social and traditional media - but still like each other in real life.
There are clearly bad people in this world. People with no empathy. Criminals, scammers, bullies, agro impolite ungrateful scumbags and worse. A few years ago, I was robbed, had four teeth knocked out and my eye socket fractured. I struggle to feel positive towards the two guys who did that... but they’re outliers. There are very few people who would do that. Most of us are friendly.
Admittedly, I have no science to back up these claims. There is no study I can find on the ratio of positive versus negative interactions we experience or how many people are good versus bad. It’s likely impossible to define. But is it possible that tech has 95 per cent of us watching in horror at the craziest 5 per cent? We see these damaged, angry daily posters going at each other and assume everyone is like that. You see a terrible person doing something horrible on TikTok, Facebook or Reddit and assume that’s happening everywhere. You read a nasty bad-faith interaction on Twitter and think everyone hates each other. We don’t, that’s not the real world.