My daughter goes to university this week having been one of those secondary school all-rounders who also achieves stellar academic results. She is one of New Zealand's latest Top Subject Scholars and will soon attend an awards ceremony at Government House.
I share her story not just as a proud father but because it challenges the anxieties of some parents as well as the direction of education policy.
As a baby my daughter was entirely bottle-fed for medical reasons. About the age of 9 she then came from a "broken home" after her mother and I split up. My daughter has always attended state schools. She had two happy years at an intermediate, a type of school the Government seems to have little time for.
The Ministry of Education is keen on parent involvement in schooling but for many years I've hardly been a role model for it. I've gone to parent evenings and some prize-givings and I've inquired after my daughter's day. I don't think her mother has done much more. But from early on, our child understood far more about what her teachers were wanting of her than we did.
At intermediate she was invited to go into an accelerated class and I thought it might be a good idea. But my daughter wasn't having any of it: "It's too nerdy Dad!"