Her parents sat through every day of the trial and somehow they found the strength to bear the unbearable. As a mother of a young woman, I don't know where I would have found the forbearance. Not because of the intimate details exposed about my daughter's sex life. Hell, I wouldn't have given a fat rat's bum about that.
Consenting adults can do whatever they like with one another and most attractive, vivacious 21-year-olds are going to explore their sexuality.
I feel that people who commented to one another how ghastly it all must be for the parents to hear the lurid details are missing the point – it would be the lurid details of a man taking your daughter's life that would be so hard to bear. And learning of the unbelievably cruel and callous way he tried to cover his crime would have been devastating to hear.
I am full of respect for David and Gillian Millane. They channelled the pain and anger they must have felt at losing their daughter in such a brutal way into a force for good.
Family and friends have raised tens of thousands of pounds for charities supporting victims of domestic violence and they have collected hundreds of bags filled with toiletries to donate to women who are living in refuges.
It shows the calibre of the people they are and why Grace was the confident, generous caring soul she was. Even when they must have been feeling incredible pain, Grace's mum and dad took the time to speak to the media and thanked the police, the legal team, the people of New Zealand – even the press contingent.
I wish them well as they return to the UK to pick up the pieces of their lives, without their daughter. I hope they sustain the strength they showed through the trial throughout the next few days and months and years as they adjust to life without Grace.
It must be a relief to know that her murderer's lies counted for nothing in the eyes of the jury and that the jury delivered a unanimous guilty verdict within a very short space of time. I know that there's a lot of anger that the murderer still has name suppression for legal reasons – people feel it's unfair that Grace's name was everywhere while his identity remains hidden. His identity is irrelevant. He's a pathological liar, a narcissist, a has been who never was, who has only come to public attention because he chose to take the life of a beautiful, clever, talented young woman who had the confidence to travel the world alone, having adventures.
She was the sort of girl anyone would be proud to call their daughter.
