KEY POINTS:
Elizabeth Webley, 26, PA in Wellington. Married to Stuart from Christchurch. Nine years here, from South Africa.
"Even though South Africa is also a western culture like New Zealand, there are many differences. The drinking age is the same in SA, yet it is not enforced strongly. So you'd think underage drinking would be out of control, especially as we also have more teenagers, yet we don't consume it on the same level as New Zealand teens.
"Also, discipline is a big thing. Kids are expected to be well behaved, respect their elders, etc, and be governed by their parents and/or teachers, which is very different from here. It is a very old-fashioned culture - a lot of men still think the best place for women is at home, and even though there are many women executives, politicians and entrepreneurs, it is not seen as being pro-feminine.
"Otherwise we are very similar, we love our meat, our rugby and our barbecues. And like Kiwis we love the outdoors, sport of any kind, and socialising with friends and family.
"It's true that New Zealanders do have an island mentality, they are sometimes quite surprised to discover the world does not revolve around New Zealand! Obviously there are many Kiwis who are successful and sophisticated and have never been near a sheep station!
"I think Kiwis are more slovenly than South Africans, other than the CBD areas of Wellington and Auckland where they are mostly corporate or government workers. I guess it is due to the size of the nation, they probably don't hold dressing up as a high value compared to our things. "I love the safety of New Zealand. I love how there are stories about wildlife and objects of interest on the news because there are not enough murders and crime to report on. I love how I can leave my doors unlocked and go for a walk at night.
"What I don't like is the small-mindedness of many Kiwis. I hate how the criminals and the lower echelons of society seem to have more rights than good, hard-working people. "I hate how bad the drivers are and I hate how the Government tells you how you can and can't raise your children or live your life.
"In South Africa I had a cousin murdered, another cousin shot and, last month, my white cousin was beaten up by four white guys for defending his black friend - it kind of blows the mind nowadays doesn't it? "And it doesn't help the stereotypes either. I really feel for people who have gone through that and have managed to come out the other side. It makes you so grateful for what you have."
