NZ Herald
  • Home
  • Latest news
  • Herald NOW
  • Video
  • New Zealand
  • Sport
  • World
  • Business
  • Entertainment
  • Podcasts
  • Quizzes
  • Opinion
  • Lifestyle
  • Travel
  • Viva
  • Weather

Subscriptions

  • Herald Premium
  • Viva Premium
  • The Listener
  • BusinessDesk

Sections

  • Latest news
  • New Zealand
    • All New Zealand
    • Crime
    • Politics
    • Education
    • Open Justice
    • Scam Update
  • Herald NOW
  • On The Up
  • World
    • All World
    • Australia
    • Asia
    • UK
    • United States
    • Middle East
    • Europe
    • Pacific
  • Business
    • All Business
    • MarketsSharesCurrencyCommoditiesStock TakesCrypto
    • Markets with Madison
    • Media Insider
    • Business analysis
    • Personal financeKiwiSaverInterest ratesTaxInvestment
    • EconomyInflationGDPOfficial cash rateEmployment
    • Small business
    • Business reportsMood of the BoardroomProject AucklandSustainable business and financeCapital markets reportAgribusiness reportInfrastructure reportDynamic business
    • Deloitte Top 200 Awards
    • CompaniesAged CareAgribusinessAirlinesBanking and financeConstructionEnergyFreight and logisticsHealthcareManufacturingMedia and MarketingRetailTelecommunicationsTourism
  • Opinion
    • All Opinion
    • Analysis
    • Editorials
    • Business analysis
    • Premium opinion
    • Letters to the editor
  • Politics
  • Sport
    • All Sport
    • OlympicsParalympics
    • RugbySuper RugbyNPCAll BlacksBlack FernsRugby sevensSchool rugby
    • CricketBlack CapsWhite Ferns
    • Racing
    • NetballSilver Ferns
    • LeagueWarriorsNRL
    • FootballWellington PhoenixAuckland FCAll WhitesFootball FernsEnglish Premier League
    • GolfNZ Open
    • MotorsportFormula 1
    • Boxing
    • UFC
    • BasketballNBABreakersTall BlacksTall Ferns
    • Tennis
    • Cycling
    • Athletics
    • SailingAmerica's CupSailGP
    • Rowing
  • Lifestyle
    • All Lifestyle
    • Viva - Food, fashion & beauty
    • Society Insider
    • Royals
    • Sex & relationships
    • Food & drinkRecipesRecipe collectionsRestaurant reviewsRestaurant bookings
    • Health & wellbeing
    • Fashion & beauty
    • Pets & animals
    • The Selection - Shop the trendsShop fashionShop beautyShop entertainmentShop giftsShop home & living
    • Milford's Investing Place
  • Entertainment
    • All Entertainment
    • TV
    • MoviesMovie reviews
    • MusicMusic reviews
    • BooksBook reviews
    • Culture
    • ReviewsBook reviewsMovie reviewsMusic reviewsRestaurant reviews
  • Travel
    • All Travel
    • News
    • New ZealandNorthlandAucklandWellingtonCanterburyOtago / QueenstownNelson-TasmanBest NZ beaches
    • International travelAustraliaPacific IslandsEuropeUKUSAAfricaAsia
    • Rail holidays
    • Cruise holidays
    • Ski holidays
    • Luxury travel
    • Adventure travel
  • Kāhu Māori news
  • Environment
    • All Environment
    • Our Green Future
  • Talanoa Pacific news
  • Property
    • All Property
    • Property Insider
    • Interest rates tracker
    • Residential property listings
    • Commercial property listings
  • Health
  • Technology
    • All Technology
    • AI
    • Social media
  • Rural
    • All Rural
    • Dairy farming
    • Sheep & beef farming
    • Horticulture
    • Animal health
    • Rural business
    • Rural life
    • Rural technology
    • Opinion
    • Audio & podcasts
  • Weather forecasts
    • All Weather forecasts
    • Kaitaia
    • Whangārei
    • Dargaville
    • Auckland
    • Thames
    • Tauranga
    • Hamilton
    • Whakatāne
    • Rotorua
    • Tokoroa
    • Te Kuiti
    • Taumaranui
    • Taupō
    • Gisborne
    • New Plymouth
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Dannevirke
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Levin
    • Paraparaumu
    • Masterton
    • Wellington
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Blenheim
    • Westport
    • Reefton
    • Kaikōura
    • Greymouth
    • Hokitika
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
    • Wānaka
    • Oamaru
    • Queenstown
    • Dunedin
    • Gore
    • Invercargill
  • Meet the journalists
  • Promotions & competitions
  • OneRoof property listings
  • Driven car news

Puzzles & Quizzes

  • Puzzles
    • All Puzzles
    • Sudoku
    • Code Cracker
    • Crosswords
    • Cryptic crossword
    • Wordsearch
  • Quizzes
    • All Quizzes
    • Morning quiz
    • Afternoon quiz
    • Sports quiz

Regions

  • Northland
    • All Northland
    • Far North
    • Kaitaia
    • Kerikeri
    • Kaikohe
    • Bay of Islands
    • Whangarei
    • Dargaville
    • Kaipara
    • Mangawhai
  • Auckland
  • Waikato
    • All Waikato
    • Hamilton
    • Coromandel & Hauraki
    • Matamata & Piako
    • Cambridge
    • Te Awamutu
    • Tokoroa & South Waikato
    • Taupō & Tūrangi
  • Bay of Plenty
    • All Bay of Plenty
    • Katikati
    • Tauranga
    • Mount Maunganui
    • Pāpāmoa
    • Te Puke
    • Whakatāne
  • Rotorua
  • Hawke's Bay
    • All Hawke's Bay
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Havelock North
    • Central Hawke's Bay
    • Wairoa
  • Taranaki
    • All Taranaki
    • Stratford
    • New Plymouth
    • Hāwera
  • Manawatū - Whanganui
    • All Manawatū - Whanganui
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Manawatū
    • Tararua
    • Horowhenua
  • Wellington
    • All Wellington
    • Kapiti
    • Wairarapa
    • Upper Hutt
    • Lower Hutt
  • Nelson & Tasman
    • All Nelson & Tasman
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Tasman
  • Marlborough
  • West Coast
  • Canterbury
    • All Canterbury
    • Kaikōura
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
  • Otago
    • All Otago
    • Oamaru
    • Dunedin
    • Balclutha
    • Alexandra
    • Queenstown
    • Wanaka
  • Southland
    • All Southland
    • Invercargill
    • Gore
    • Stewart Island
  • Gisborne

Media

  • Video
    • All Video
    • NZ news video
    • Herald NOW
    • Business news video
    • Politics news video
    • Sport video
    • World news video
    • Lifestyle video
    • Entertainment video
    • Travel video
    • Markets with Madison
    • Kea Kids news
  • Podcasts
    • All Podcasts
    • The Front Page
    • On the Tiles
    • Ask me Anything
    • The Little Things
  • Cartoons
  • Photo galleries
  • Today's Paper - E-editions
  • Photo sales
  • Classifieds

NZME Network

  • Advertise with NZME
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • BusinessDesk
  • Newstalk ZB
  • Sunlive
  • ZM
  • The Hits
  • Coast
  • Radio Hauraki
  • The Alternative Commentary Collective
  • Gold
  • Flava
  • iHeart Radio
  • Hokonui
  • Radio Wanaka
  • iHeartCountry New Zealand
  • Restaurant Hub
  • NZME Events

SubscribeSign In
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Home / New Zealand

Expert: Reiha McLelland's secret 'love' for Sam Back caused guilt, inquest hears

David Fisher
By David Fisher
Senior writer·NZ Herald·
13 Dec, 2016 06:17 AM4 mins to read

Subscribe to listen

Access to Herald Premium articles require a Premium subscription. Subscribe now to listen.
Already a subscriber?  Sign in here

Listening to articles is free for open-access content—explore other articles or learn more about text-to-speech.
‌
Save

    Share this article

Reiha McLelland, 13, who is focus of an inquest in Gisborne after taking her life in 2014. Photo supplied to the New Zealand Herald

Reiha McLelland, 13, who is focus of an inquest in Gisborne after taking her life in 2014. Photo supplied to the New Zealand Herald

The 13-year-old girl who took her life after the end of her "strange" relationship with her former teacher was likely "in love" but under pressure to keep it secret, an inquest has heard.

The psychiatrist who treated the girl in Gisborne said it was likely that the end of the relationship between Reiha McLelland and Sam Back, 42, hit the girl like a divorce.

He said he did not believe she had a mental illness but was suffering a depressive episode brought about by the forced end of the relationship which came when police began investigating Back's involvement with the teen.

The inquest into Reiha's death was hearing fresh testimony about the events leading to her death in August 2014. The hearing is being carried out at the Wairoa District Court after the power cut in Gisborne disrupted the week's scheduled hearing there.

Reiha took her life in 2014 while receiving care from mental health services in Gisborne and after the end of her relationship with former Gisborne Intermediate teacher Back and his partner Angie Mepham.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

The relationship came to an end when Reiha and Back were seen holding hands while she was admitted to hospital and after her mother Hinemoa discovered secret text messages between her daughter, Back and Mepham, who was also a teacher.

The psychiatrist said Reiha had become a patient of the adolescent mental health team at Tairawhiti District Health Board after running away from home and amid concerns of self-harm.

"I saw her struggle with the burden of secrets which I did not see as a mental illness."

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

The psychiatrist said it wasn't until after Reiha had died that the extent of the relationship became known through the gathering of evidence for the inquest - 4000 text messages in three months between the teen and her former teacher.

Gisborne teacher Sam Back picture supplied
Gisborne teacher Sam Back picture supplied

He said it would have added information and urgency to his approach.

"I would have said, 'This girl is in an impossible situation. She's feeling guilty, she can't talk about her innermost feelings.'

"She's in deep trouble."

Discover more

New Zealand

Teen & teacher: Grieving parents' distress

06 Sep 05:00 PM
New Zealand

Girl's death: Hundreds of pages of texts

07 Sep 06:53 AM
New Zealand

Girl's death: Teacher 'shoulder to cry on'

08 Sep 04:22 AM
New Zealand

Teacher allowed girl to call him 'big boy'

08 Sep 06:38 AM

Similar views were expressed earlier in the day by the teen's psychologist, who also has name suppression.

"Having formed such a close relationship with the teachers, she felt a need to protect them," said the psychologist. "She was keeping a big secret" and it was a constant problem "her main allegiance was to the teachers".

She said those involved in her treatment "didn't have any evidence there was any sexual contact". However, she said children who were in such situations were compelled to keep any sexual contact hidden.

Reiha's secret "served to isolate her from her family," she said.

Bruce and Hinemoa McLelland had told Reiha she was no longer able to see the teachers once police began investigating the extent of the relationship in April 2014.

Angela Mepham, pictured outside the Gisborne District Court after giving evidence at a coroners inquest.
Angela Mepham, pictured outside the Gisborne District Court after giving evidence at a coroners inquest.

No charges were laid but it was discovered around 4000 texts had been exchanged between Reiha and Back over the previous three months.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Despite the ban on contact, the psychologist said Reiha "didn't experience significant feelings of alienation from her parents".

"She said she understood why she wasn't able to see the teachers."

The psychologist was quizzed about the impact on Reiha of meetings between her and the teachers after the police investigation started.

One instance came in May 2014 after the teen ran away the day after being interviewed by police about the relationship with Back - an interview in which she refused to take part.

Police had arranged for Mepham to contact Reiha by text message and to collect her - a contact between the two which could have had adverse effects, the court heard.

There was also evidence, said the family's lawyer Moira Macnab, of contact with Back on July 2.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Macnab asked the psychologist if it appeared Reiha's mood shifted after contact with the teachers.

"Her mind had turned. It was somehow related to Mr Back and Miss Mepham," she said. "I do think she was doing better without the contact (with the teachers)."

The psychologist said she was never privy to the extent of text communication until after Reiha's death. Asked for her view on whether the relationship was a "good thing" with the information she had at the time, she described it as "strange, puzzling and increasingly inappropriate".

Reiha was in Back's Gisborne Intermediate class during 2013, during which time contact outside school began to take place. The contact included emails, text messages and sleepovers at his house during times when his partner was and wasn't present.

Both Back and Mepham have been before the New Zealand Teachers Disciplinary Tribunal following a complaint by Reiha's parents. Back was struck off and Mepham was cautioned but allowed to continue teaching.

Save

    Share this article

Latest from New Zealand

New Zealand

Heavy rain warnings extended as front sits over central North Island

03 Jul 09:22 AM
New Zealand

Fatal crash charge: 20-year-old to face court over Southland tragedy

03 Jul 08:09 AM
New Zealand

'Needs to be killed': Gang president allegedly ordered fatal attack on fellow member

03 Jul 08:00 AM

There’s more to Hawai‘i than beaches and buffets – here’s how to see it differently

sponsored
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Latest from New Zealand

Heavy rain warnings extended as front sits over central North Island

Heavy rain warnings extended as front sits over central North Island

03 Jul 09:22 AM

Rain started falling at the top of the country before dawn.

Fatal crash charge: 20-year-old to face court over Southland tragedy

Fatal crash charge: 20-year-old to face court over Southland tragedy

03 Jul 08:09 AM
'Needs to be killed': Gang president allegedly ordered fatal attack on fellow member

'Needs to be killed': Gang president allegedly ordered fatal attack on fellow member

03 Jul 08:00 AM
How student loan penalties are keeping Kiwis from returning home

How student loan penalties are keeping Kiwis from returning home

03 Jul 07:49 AM
From early mornings to easy living
sponsored

From early mornings to easy living

NZ Herald
  • About NZ Herald
  • Meet the journalists
  • Newsletters
  • Classifieds
  • Help & support
  • Contact us
  • House rules
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of use
  • Competition terms & conditions
  • Our use of AI
Subscriber Services
  • NZ Herald e-editions
  • Daily puzzles & quizzes
  • Manage your digital subscription
  • Manage your print subscription
  • Subscribe to the NZ Herald newspaper
  • Subscribe to Herald Premium
  • Gift a subscription
  • Subscriber FAQs
  • Subscription terms & conditions
  • Promotions and subscriber benefits
NZME Network
  • The New Zealand Herald
  • The Northland Age
  • The Northern Advocate
  • Waikato Herald
  • Bay of Plenty Times
  • Rotorua Daily Post
  • Hawke's Bay Today
  • Whanganui Chronicle
  • Viva
  • NZ Listener
  • Newstalk ZB
  • BusinessDesk
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • iHeart Radio
  • Restaurant Hub
NZME
  • About NZME
  • NZME careers
  • Advertise with NZME
  • Digital self-service advertising
  • Book your classified ad
  • Photo sales
  • NZME Events
  • © Copyright 2025 NZME Publishing Limited
TOP