When things went further than she was comfortable with, she made it clear she did not consent, the court has heard.
Today, the High Court at Auckland heard the victim's impact statement.
"At first I tried to block everything out as though nothing had happened," she said.
"I thought that if I didn't think about it that I was protecting myself."
But in the back of her mind she worried about what she would do if she saw him in the street.
"Would you hang your head and continue walking?
"I don't think you realise the impact that you had on me that night."
Some nights she woke up "crying and screaming".
"I had to check my front door was locked at least three times every night because I was scared you would find me.
"I lost a lot of confidence and became extremely paranoid.
"I don't want your sympathy but I want you to know this hasn't been an easy road for me."
It had taken time, strength and tears to be able to speak about what he did.
She was a different person now.
"I am not scared. I am strong. I am not alone. I am loved.
"I have so much to look forward to in my life and I will not look back."
She said she would never speak his name again.
"You don't have any power over me any more."
Defence lawyer Tiffany Cooper said her client "is very much loved by his family and enjoys enormous support by them".
Defence lawyer Tiffany Cooper pictured at the first day of the trial. Photo / Sam Hurley Justice Venning said it was apparent from his response to the verdict that he did not accept the offending.
"You have no remorse or insight into it."
The High Court judge said the man had a troubled upbringing and his parents had split when he was young.
"Your mother rejected you. That may go some way towards explaining your attitude towards women," Justice Venning said.
The man laughed from the dock in response.
Cooper had provided to the court a number of letters of support which "paint a more positive picture".
"You are fortunate to have that support," Justice Venning said.
