Learning to appreciate the small things can take the stress out of forcing yourself to be happy. Photo / 123RF
We have all developed a mindset whereby happiness is associated with an end goal: perfection.
But what we are failing to realize is that the dream of perfect health, a perfect work life and a perfect social life is an unachievable goal, says the Daily Mail.
Obsessing over it is not only unhealthy but also means we miss out on many of life's simple pleasures.
"Focusing too much on this "thing" known as happiness can actually lead to feelings of dissatisfaction, frustration or even depression," Dr Meg Arroll, a leading psychologist, says.
"Being "happy" has become yet another thing that we must "do". The problem is happiness isn't something we can just "do", it is the by-product of other positive acts."
Long before the digital age, British philosopher John Stuart Mills said that people who are supposedly "happy" are people that focus on the happiness of others, or on the improvement of mankind, or even on some kind of artistic pursuit.
"We could all learn a thing or two from him," Dr Arroll insists. "In other words, happy people don't solely focus on themselves."
So what's the best way to get to that point? Here, Dr Arroll explains her top tips to appreciate what you've got...
Find time to indulge in your favourite everyday activities.
It really is the simple things in life that make us feel happy - spending time with loved ones, enjoying a long walk outdoors, laughing and even caring for a pet.
2. Top up your vitamin intake
A deficiency in vitamin D is linked with feeling blue and around half the population of the UK don't get enough of it.
In fact 16 percent of us are severely deficient in winter and spring time. In older adults, severe deficiency is even more common with 58 percent of older people having very low levels of vitamin D.
3. Take a break from your phone
The media can encourage us to compare ourselves with others.
When we compare ourselves to friends and family, we know that they have imperfections and make mistakes.
But in media, it may seem like others are perfect and this can make us feel inadequate, flawed and frankly just a bit rubbish.
This is why it's a good idea to take a break from looking outwards and use mindfulness to focus back in on ourselves.
4. Live in the moment
There really is something to say for the phrase "living in the moment".
Using mindfulness to "live in the moment" has been found to have a number of health benefits.