Alexandra Tylee, the owner of Pipi cafe in Havelock North, with the teddy bear she had made for her son Zeus. He died at the age of three months in a cot death 21 years. Photo / Warren Buckland
Pipi Cafe's Alexandra Tylee shares a bittersweet memory.
I studied Greek goddesses at university and always felt a strong attachment to Artemis. So I decided if I ever had a girl, that's what I'd name her. When the pregnancy scan showed it was a boy, I said to [then-husband] Sanjay,
"What about Zeus?" And it stuck.
We were living in Wellington and I ordered a teddy bear for him through Kirkaldie & Stains from a woman who made lovely old-fashioned English bears – like Sebastian Flyte's in Brideshead Revisited. When Zeus died of cot death, Sanjay wrote our son's name on its foot. He would have been 21 last Boxing Day.
He only lived for three months but Zeus was really "there" right from the beginning – an engaged, strong personality from the start. And, being half-Indian, he looked different. He was really dark, while my three other sons were all blond. Harry [15] and Louis [12] never met Zeus but he's a big part of their lives. They talk about him and feel he's their brother.
All the energy from the way I felt about Zeus went into Pipi, which I opened in Greytown soon after he died. Working day and night meant I didn't have to think too much. I didn't know where to put the feeling of wanting to care for a child and it helped being able to pour that into the restaurant and the customers.