"Do you wish to add a tip? Yes/No." There you are, fed and watered and liquored, the meal has filled up your senses like a night in a forest, you were blind with hunger but now you can see, you mopped up the plate with your tongue when you
Steve Braunias on how to cope with the question of tips in restaurants
"Do you wish to add a tip? Yes/No." What you really wish for is not be asked in the first place. The question puts you in a headlock, wrestles you to the floor, and screams in your face, but it doesn't have to be like that. There's such a sense of well-being when you go to pay for a meal and the notion occurs to you to add a tip. It becomes a matter of choice, a matter of exercising your own free will. Also, it presents you with a flattering reflection. You're a good person, you're responsible, you're sensitive to the needs of those working in the hospitality industry; you're an embodiment of that golden rule of life known as the kindness of strangers. But you don't make a fuss of it. It's no big deal. You're doing it without really thinking. The question forces you to think; worse, it forces you to act.
"Do you wish to add a tip? Yes/No." In fact, that's not the question. What the yes/no tip dilemma presents is another, far more personal and disturbing question. The question is this: what's your relationship with money? God. What a question. It's more intrusive and revealing than being asked about sex. Money, the central fact of adult life; money, the want and need of it, the have and the have not of it, the constant whirring, buzzing, roaring sound of it – all of it reaching a fine point as you stand at the counter of the restaurant, about to cough up for food and drink. Are you generous with money? Are you a Scrooge with money? What's your relationship with money? Do you worry about the scarcity of money? Would you do anything for money? What's your relationship with money? Did you vote Labour? Did you vote National? What's your relationship with money? What's more important, love or money? What was your parents' relationship with money? What's your relationship with money?
"Do you wish to add a tip? Yes/No." Yes.