Singles are often told they're too picky when it comes to looking for a mate. Next time you hear that, you might point out that you're just trying to avoid a bad match. And, as a new study points out, picking a bad mate can be worse than passing up a good one.
A study of relationship deal-breakers, published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin this month, noted that "natural selection has punished mating mistakes more harshly (ie death, disease, infertility) than it has rewarded quality mating choices (ie living incrementally longer, having incrementally healthier offspring)".
The researchers, led by Peter K Jonason of the University of Western Sydney, looked at six surveys of relationship deal-breakers and found, among other things, that women have more deal-breakers than men, since they're the ones who have the potential to bear children with their prospective mates.
"Women are likely to be more selective about their relationship partners to avoid costly impregnation by low-quality mates," the study notes, so women "should perceive more - or have lower tolerance for - deal-breakers in potential mates".
In one of the surveys included in this study, 5541 participants (single Americans ages 21 to over 76) were asked: When considering a committed relationship with someone, which of the following would be deal-breakers to you? Respondents could select as many traits as they wanted from a list of 17 potential deal-breakers, including things such as: lazy; too needy; too quiet; talks too much; bad sex.