The end of the school year brings with it prizegiving season. This means some kids will get publicly recognised for their achievements, talent and efforts. It also means that lots of kids won’t. We’re all about celebrating achievement and congratulating kids on their success, but we also want to acknowledge
Parenting Place: Seven ways to celebrate your kids during prize-giving season
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Seven simple ways to show your kids how awesome they are. Photo / copy space

2. Serve up dinner on The Red Plate
The Red Plate is a Parenting Place initiative – it’s a special plate awarded to a member of the family who has done something worth celebrating. It could be awarded for trying something for the first time, an act of generosity, bravery or kindness, finishing a project or getting to the end of exams. The Red Plate helps siblings learn to honour and celebrate each other too – you only have one red plate in the cupboard, which means only one person receives the honour at a time.
3. Stickers that say so much
Here’s another shameless plug for a Parenting Place product – this one is our affirmation stickers. These stickers are especially lovely for our little ones and a great way to let our tamariki know we love them and we’re proud of them. Surprise your child with a sticker on their T-shirt as they head off to kindy or school. Stick one on their hand when they get home, on their latest artwork, or go for the tried-and-true sticker chart on the fridge.

4. Mark the last day of school with a special dinner
Acknowledge the end of another big year with dinner out, special takeaways or your child’s favourite home-cooked meal to recognise their efforts and achievements. This could become an annual family tradition, and something that’s meaningful to young children and teenagers alike.
5. Leave them a note on their pillow
This one’s a classic, and every time I do it I’m surprised at how much it means to my kids – now teenagers! (You know it’s a meaningful gesture when the recipient shows off to their siblings – “I got a note on my pillow and you didn’t.” Nice one girls.) Basically this is just a little love note, but it speaks volumes – especially if you convey specific messaging around something you’re especially proud of or grateful for in your child. But generally, a note says “I see you, I’ve been thinking of you, I think you’re awesome”. Job done.

6. Take an interest in the school work they bring home right about now
What does one do with all the used exercise books and piles of artwork that come home from school at the end of term 4? Short answer, I don’t exactly know. I have an old suitcase jammed full of the stuff. It conveniently hit capacity at the same time most of our girls’ learning and project work has gone digital. How you store all your kids’ school work, and how long for – those are questions for another day. The point here is to harness this moment for its full celebration value. Sit down with your child and ask them to show you their work. Ask them what their favourite projects and artworks were this year. Ask them to show you something they’re proud of in their exercise books, or a favourite comment from their teacher. Get them to teach you something from all the fascinating things they’ve learned. (One year, our girls’ primary school dedicated a whole term to a “worm inquiry”. I learned a lot.)
7. Make a speech
Little kids love this one, older kids pretend they don’t love it but deep down they actually really do. Clink a glass, clear your throat and go all-out toastmasters as dinner wraps up, or maybe as an intro to dessert. Acknowledge the hard work, perseverance, successes and even the not-so-successful-but-good-on-you-for-trying moments of your child’s year. Be specific in your recognition, showing your child that you’ve noticed what they’ve pushed through and where they’ve tried their best. They might be pleasantly surprised by the type of things you’re proud of and have been impressed by. A speech in someone’s honour is, funnily enough, really honouring. The celebratory potential here is huge too – invite the wider whānau over, dress up formal, pop confetti, let off some fireworks... the sky’s the limit.