It's Mother's Day this weekend. Stores will do a roaring trade in bath bombs that can inflame delicate areas and boxes of chocolates will fly off the shelves, even though Mum has pledged to cut sugar again after a late Easter.
Where would we be without our mums? For one thing, we wouldn't be here but that's a chicken and egg scenario which I won't go into. For some, motherhood comes easily, unplanned or without a single setback. For some, motherhood takes intervention with stress and heartbreak along the way. For others, and for various reasons, motherhood doesn't come at all or it comes and goes. And anyone for whom Mother's Day is a day of sadness or stress for any reason, I'm not alone in saying that my heart breaks for you. We see you.
Expectant and new mums are on information overload but as the years slip by and the baby years pass, the needs and challenges change. Here is some of what I've learnt, or I wish I'd been told. Did they tell me, and I just didn't listen? Most likely, although I will plead exhaustion as my defence.
1. You'll never sleep again
Well, you will, but your sleep will forever be changed. Once I slept for 16 hours with an apartment block being constructed right outside my window. Now, as my friend says, I wake up at a bee's fart. The mum sleep. We can be midway through a deep or REM cycle and the moment we hear a rustle from our child's bedroom or, in my case recently, the delicate splash of a midnight vomit onto hotel room carpet, we are up and ready to go. Embrace the new normal, it's the only way to survive.