It is important to like the person, I think, to make for a successful book. It's almost like Stan has transcended the musician thing and has a taonga status. He's shared a lot of his life with people. JK used to talk about that — I've made myself vulnerable to people and they have been vulnerable right back — and I think Stan is like that too. People feel able to be themselves with him.
My interviews with Stan were very long, the first one was six hours. [We were] channelling the violence of his childhood. I used to say to him at the end, are you okay, do you have someone to be with tonight? He was always more excited in a way that he had the opportunity to express stuff that he hadn't been able to express before, but me, I would wake up the next morning and often feel quite down and I realised that's because when you're listening closely to someone you are having an experience and that's the thing about these people that I tend to write about, they have been through a lot.
I remember Lance O'Sullivan saying some people are extraordinary and we tend to look at them as role models and why can't we all be like them and no we can't — some people are extraordinary. Stan, there's nothing to indicate he should even be alive, let alone full of forgiveness and aroha. He has got an incredible character.
The hardest thing as a ghostwriter is stepping back. You feel all the time you are writing the manuscript that it's your book, but it's not your book. You feel so aligned with the story you are retelling and you feel a sense of ownership for having drawn a particular sort of story out of a person — and then it goes out into the world and it has nothing to do with you.
As told to Eleanor Black