I'm always suspicious of blogs or columns that say some version of "the one change you can make NOW to improve your life" because, well it's always more complicated than that, isn't it?
Or maybe I'm just not a very good self-help columnist. A few people have taken the time recently to email me and point that out. Maybe they're right?
So what would be the one thing, the one psychological skill that would make the biggest change to your life? What simple self-help tip would I give?
Human emotions are pretty amazing things, really. Not in a romantic "they make us human" kind of way, but in a survival, keep us alive kind of way.
They help us survive by redirecting our attention, our actions and our behaviour before we even know what's happening: we hit the brakes without needing to consciously think about the car that just pulled out in front of us.