Before everyone emails in outrage that I'm condoning self harm, the point is this: We can wait for motivation to arise naturally, which is wonderful when it does, and is what many of us consider when we talk about "feeling motivated". Or we can create motivation through behaviour designed to bring about the desired state.
The problem with depression and motivation, at the risk of stating the blindingly obvious, is that depression - namely being inactive, having an inward focus, excessive and repetitive thinking - is a feedback loop that creates and maintains a demotivated state.
Ultimately, it's one of the very practical ways that medication helps. Anti-depressants don't "fix the brain" so much as they enable the behaviour that breaks that downward, de-motivating behaviour loop. The same goes for exercise. Activity is the behavioural opposite of depression's unrelenting lethargy.
If you're searching for motivation, there's no need to bang your head against the wall. You need look no further than making small, maintainable behavioural change. Any activity is better than none, any movement better than lethargy, any outward focus better than rumination.
So stop waiting for motivation, create it. While that might feel like hard work, I think the idea that we can ultimately treat ourselves with deliberate changes in behaviour is liberating.
Just don't wait until you feel like it.
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