Easier said than done? Here are a few thoughts around how this might work:
Practise saying "no". Saying "I'll think about that and get back to you" is a great approach when requested to sign up, volunteer, join a club, or take on the netball team treasurer role. This gives you time to truly reflect on whether the opportunity is the right fit for your schedule and something you really want to give up your spare time for.
Be realistic about how many extra-curricular activities your kids can do. Maybe just one extra thing per child, per term is the reasonable and manageable way forward for your family. Our kids can be involved in the decision-making process around what activities or sports to do, so they can practise weighing up options, making wise choices and following through on commitments. Lifelong learning right there.
Look at ways to streamline activities – choosing the local option to reduce travel time or getting your kids to try the same activity at once. I've got my kids at the same athletics programme in our neighbourhood, on the same night with only a 45-minute gap between them – which saves a whole afternoon.
Put boundaries in place to protect family/home time. Unscheduled time at home to simply hang out as a family unit is gold, so consider how much of this you would like to have as the norm this year. It will probably be an ideal goal, not always achievable depending on circumstances, but something to aim for nonetheless.
If busyness has been part of your family style for some time, talking about expectations will help prevent disappointment. Talk to your whānau about your new plan, so the kids know they're not going to be out every day after school, that only one playdate a week will be happening and that sleepovers are a special treat and not a regular fixture, for example.
Depending on age and stage, think about what extra household chores your kids can take on this year to help take the load off yourself - while also upskilling them and training them to play their part in the family unit. So far my 5- and 9-year-old's lists include things like unpacking the dishwasher, putting pyjamas away and making beds, prepping their stuff for school the night before, making lunches and vacuuming.
My older child is keen to cook and although I'll admit it's a lot easier and faster when I do it myself, if I don't give him the opportunity, how will he learn? So far he's mastered spaghetti and meatballs as well as homemade pizza, so we'll work to expand the menu this year. Short-term pain, long-term gain, I keep telling myself. If you can't already tell, patience isn't my top virtue.
Holly Jean Brooker is one of the team of presenters at Parenting Place. She is a mum, works in PR and freelance writing and has a background in high school education in Health and Social Sciences. Parenting Place is the charity with a heart for supporting New Zealand families on their parenting journey.