Tim Robards reveals he was "scared, skinny and weak" as a kid. Photo / Instagram
Tim Robards reveals he was "scared, skinny and weak" as a kid. Photo / Instagram
When you visit someone's Instagram profile, do you walk away feeling better or worse?
We are often bombarded by "perfect" looking models and influencers on social media which can sometimes affect how we feel about ourselves.
But Tim Robards' intentions are the opposite. The former Bachelor recently posted a topless selfie, showing off his chiselled chest after a gym session in an effort to stop his followers feeling bad about themselves, reports news.com.au.
Robards says he usually isn't big on shirtless elevator selfies, however, in this moment he wanted to share with his nearly 200,000 followers a moment of self-reflection. Growing up in Newcastle, the reality TV star turned celebrity trainer said he struggled with confidence especially "in a footy worshipping town where blokes were blokes".
"When I looked at this pic I saw a 13-year-old shy kid who wanted to join the high school football team but was too scared, skinny and weak," Robards said in a caption alongside the post. "He made a decision that, that was not who he wanted to be. He trained his butt off for a year, early morning and late nights, educated himself on nutrition, made the team. and the training never stopped.
Back in the day: Tim is pictured with his sister and mother. Photo / Supplied
"The discipline, strength and self belief I learnt from that year stayed with me and I built on it year after year … and I truly believe it has filtered into so many other parts of my life."
Robards said he didn't want or need any comments about the photo itself, but would love to hear how people found their own strength.
"I always try to educate and inspire people through my social media and you do hear that there are a lot people who struggle with body image and sometimes I do question if I am doing the right thing for them, whether it creates an unrealistic goal. But do I do nothing? I am faced with those two things — do I try and inspire or do nothing?"
Speaking of his elevator selfie, the 35-year-old chiropractor said he had just finished a workout and felt great and strong.
"When I look at my physical body, it is a reflection of my hardwork and lifestyle, the discipline I've learned and the love I have given myself. I take time to nurture myself and look after myself and I want to help others who struggle with that to be able to do the same," he told news.com.au.
Tim and Anna Heinrich met five years ago on The Bachelor. They wed in Italy, in June this year. Photo / Instagram
"It's not so much about the way I look for me, it's every time I'd complete a workout I feel that I've achieved something — pushing myself to new limits, doing a workout I never thought I could do."
In a recent podcast also shared via Instagram, Robards explained he had learnt not to care so much about what other people thought.
"These days I am giving less f**s; it's been a nice transition. You need to love all parts of yourself before anyone else will love you," he said.
"The more we put ourselves ou there the more we can achieve anything we want."
"There's got to be an emotional reason to do something especially if it involves putting yourself through discomfort … most things that better us involve putting ourself through discomfort.
"You need to get clear on your goals, and what you want to achieve. I always set my goals around what excited and makes me tick rather than having a bunch of superficial things that boost my ego."
He said achieving goals was about mental, emotional and physical balance — a big part of the design behind his latest 10 week challenge, The Robards Method.
He says fitness is all about the mental, emotional and physical balance. Photo / Instagram
"Unlike many other programs, it's a lifestyle, as opposed to a quick fix," Robards said.
"There's a minimum of 100 weeks of progressive workouts to complete. Like in karate, it adds an element of gamification, presenting a system where you begin at level one and work your way up to level 5."
Participants are graded every four weeks to see if they have progressed enough to reach the next level. In the past three years, only two people have completed level 5.
"It's possible, you just have to put in the hardwork," Robards said.
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