I met an Englishman at a cultural event in the next-door beach resort town of Biarritz, in a tent that seated 750 people. I don't normally warm to the English - it may have something to do with their arrogant national rugby team, but is more likely an inherited prejudice. England has contributed to world civilisation like no other and what would New Zealand be without them arriving as colonisers, or settlers if you prefer the euphemism. This Englishman I liked.
The event is a celebration of the Basque way of life. My new friend said that when he first got to Biarritz 13 years ago, "it felt as if I was finally at my true home". This despite the Basque people being very standoffish until they learn to trust you - and that may be never - or one of their key players introduces you. "Then you're in and it's for life," this 75-year-old told me.
He hardly goes back to England and when he does, can't wait to "come home". I'm not quite like that, patriotic and emotionally anchored that I am to the country I was born and raised in. But I did get his point. This is some place, the Basque Country.
The Basque culture is unique, full-on passionate either singing, eating or conversing. They're a united people with their own language - though the majority don't speak it - and the songs that help bind them are wonderful sung en masse.
The food. My God, the food just kept coming. I don't prefer multi-courses yet I enjoyed four of the five courses and am glad I don't eat desert. Lamb on a spit will always go down with a Kiwi, like the big lead singer with the magnificent voice did. Found myself getting nostalgic for the company of Maori again. Yet part of me well knows that this Basque event is a reflection of their history, just as Maori reflect both on their past and what modern life has made of them. There's that other social code here, of never getting drunk. Drink and be merry, absolutely. But drunk is a very bad look. No violence at any social event - zero. Like it is with the vast majority of people I know in both countries. But this does not apply to a small minority who think it's okay to get pissed, be abusive and even fight.