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Sandra Bullock says she thought of her husband, mechanic and reality TV star Jesse James, as a brutish bigot before she got to know him, "I assumed he was a homophobic chauvinist, a bigot who killed people," she said. "And later I felt saddened and wondered how many times I'd written off people who truly were real.
"People are so good at attending to their jobs, their plants, their pets. Why is it that when it comes to a relationship, we say: 'Oh, it's here. It should just work'. It doesn't."
