I avoid using the word "actress". I long ago stopped using "fireman" and "spokesman", and I never used bygone terms such as "aviatrix" or "authoress". I don't say "male nurse" or "female Marine".
So I typically use "actor" to describe a person who acts (it does complicate things that "actor" was masculine in the original Latin, but that, for me, is akin to how my last name is made up of my father's and my husband's, respectively, so let's just get on with it). If your job is to act, 90 per cent of the time I'm going to call you an actor.
And then there's the Oscars, the nominations for which will be announced tomorrow. Any other day I'd call Laurie Metcalf an actor; if she gets a nomination for Lady Bird, I'll have to refer to her as "a nominee for best actress". The categories for the acting awards are clear - but why?
The Pulitzers aren't divided by sex; nor the MacArthur "genius grants". Competitive Scrabble isn't; neither is professional poker. Because no matter what you think about the difference between female and male brains, when it comes to these artistic and intellectual pursuits, the skills are the same for men and women.
So why do the Oscars treat acting any differently? (In the spirit of #notallawards, last year Emma Watson won the MTV Movie & TV Award for best actor, a gender-neutral award.)