It's more than trying to write songs to help. It's about having people in the same room sharing something that's not directly related to the trouble you're going through. That's the real sweetness of the thing.
Because I was in Lyttelton and the quake was centred just below the tunnel, we were shut off from the rest of the world for weeks. The tunnel was closed and the army was here. We were sort of suspended in time, with only each other to look after each other.
I still have a sense of danger I never had before the quake. You lose your trust in the stability of everything. That this planet we've been on for our whole lives can do that to us — it shocks everyone of any age. There's no age you get to where you're able to process that any better.
And, of course, the earthquakes didn't stop. It was an ongoing thing that created a whole new atmosphere. There was also a sense of this weird ecstasy — an end of days, carpe diem feeling. I had some of the most meaningful times with a lot of different people. It opened the heart up a little bit more.
Things I thought were pedestrian suddenly took on a sweetness, like any near-death experience might. I remember taking so much pleasure in building fires that winter. The little things you do to help yourself and each other leave you feeling really good.
My parents are separated and live here and it meant everyone needed each other. It was quite unifying and made everyone put down their differences. That's very cliched but it's definitely how it felt. It's a nice thing — just to be huddled with loved ones and to be thankful we had each other.
Marlon Williams' new album, Make Way for Love, is out now.