So going way back, we had always assumed that if we were to look at upward hostility as a response to downward hostility, that we would find not much relationship. But we found the opposite, that in fact one of the best, most reliable consequences of downward hostility is upward hostility of various sorts, passive-aggressive kinds of responses and also active-aggressive kinds of responses, actually yelling back at the boss.
So that evokes other kinds of questions like, "What are the consequences of expressing hostility toward a hostile boss?"
Q: AND THAT IS WHAT LED YOU TO START ASKING, "HOW DOES THIS AFFECT THEIR SATISFACTION AT WORK, HOW DOES IT AFFECT HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THEIR CAREER?"
A: Exactly. We knew from other studies that if your boss is hostile toward you, you are going to be less satisfied with your job, less committed to the work. You are more likely to experience psychological distress. We know that performance suffers; we know that people are less helpful when their boss is hostile toward them.
I have found no upside whatsoever to a boss being hostile, even though there is a lay belief out there that if you kind of kick people a little bit, maybe you can get them motivated. We never seem to find evidence of that.
So if in fact people are getting something out of being hostile toward their boss, maybe it would be reflected in some of these outcomes that we know to be negatively affected by exposure to downward hostility.
We actually set up two different lines of reasoning that lead to two very different predictions. One is that, if your boss is hostile toward you, and you respond with hostility, that will just make things worse. By the way, that is the hypothesis I thought for sure was going to be supported.
The alternative hypothesis that would maybe help us explain why people are hostile toward a hostile boss is the idea that if you reciprocate your boss's hostility, it will actually make things a little bit better and you will feel more satisfied, or not as depressed and psychologically harmed.
Our reasoning behind that second hypothesis is that if you reciprocate a boss's hostility, you are less likely to feel like a victim. Now, we had never studied the idea that a person would report that they feel like they are a victim when their boss is hostile, but it seemed to make some sense.
So maybe if you reciprocate the boss's hostility, it will make you feel like you are asserting some control over your situation, you are responding in some way, then you will not feel as victimised.
We found a surprising result: Although a person is more likely to feel like a victim when their boss is hostile toward them, they are much less likely to feel like a victim when they reciprocate their boss's hostility.
The other thing we looked was subjective career outcomes. Because we were a little bit surprised by what happened in Study 1, it occurred to us that maybe being hostile toward a hostile boss would not play out in a positive way when we look at other kinds of outcomes like how your career is affected. You may be satisfied in the moment, but maybe in the long run it hurts you. So we also included measures of subjective career success in the second study. Once again, we found that there was this buffering effect, and it seemed to work for all the variables that we looked at. And the explanation was that people feel less like a victim when they express hostility toward a hostile boss.
Q: SO OFFERING A BUFFER AGAINST THE VICTIM IDENTITY IS VERY HELPFUL FOR PEOPLE WHO HAVE A DIFFICULT BOSS. IS THERE A WAY THAT MIGHT PLAY OUT MORE PRODUCTIVELY THAN BEING HOSTILE BACK TO YOUR BOSS?
A: "Give it back as good as you get" — that is not what we are saying at all, for several reasons. First, our study confirms something we have known for a long time: that the best scenario for any employee is to not have an abusive boss.
If you do have an abusive boss, now what? I would conclude from our results that engaging in a passive-aggressive way appears to be better than nothing. But what we didn't look at in this study is alternatives to passive-aggressive behavior as a way of coping.
There are other things that we believe work in other kinds of contexts. When people are experiencing stress, they seek the help of co-workers, they engage in meaningful activity away from work, they exercise, they have hobbies. There are lots of alternatives to passive-aggressive responses that do work.
Now, we don't know for sure because we didn't study them. All we know from this is that passive-aggressive behavior seems to be better than nothing. We don't know if it is better than forgiveness, acceptance and lots of other things that we believe could be very effective ways of responding to an abusive boss.
One other thing: We know from lots of other research that passive-aggressive behavior by an employee undermines the effectiveness of their co-workers, it undermines group effectiveness. So there are costs. It's just that those aren't the personal costs we looked at.
Written by: Walter Frick
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