But not talking about it only means any problems continue to grow, unaddressed.
Getting on the same page with your partner is really important, as two of you working towards the same goals can get you there a lot faster.
If you're not working together, it can be impossible to get anything done.
Happily, researchers have been beavering away on this topic, and giving us a roadmap to have these conversations in a better way.
For the latest podcast, I talked to Nicola Eccleton from Good Shepherd NZ, and Dr Ayesha Scott from AUT Business School.
For the interview, listen to the podcast here.
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