Start by having a discussion with your ex-husband about why you are concerned for your son to travel to Auckland. This discussion may highlight underlying concerns that the other parent has not considered.
You are entitled to be concerned about your son travelling across the country at any time, but Covid-19 has raised additional issues. In particular, you are concerned about your son's health. Your ex-husband is likely wanting some bonding time with his son.
A compromise may be reached so that they could do a bonding activity without travelling to Auckland.
Mediation
If neither of you are willing to compromise, you may need to involve an independent third party to determine what is best for your son. You could attend a mediation with your ex-husband. Mediation can be formal or informal.
An informal mediation would involve a trusted friend of family member. If you would prefer to attend a formal mediation, there are a number of Family Dispute Resolution services available, such as Fairway or the FDR Centre.
Court order
As a last resort, you could apply to the Family Court for an Order to Settle a Dispute between Guardians. You must have attempted family dispute resolution before applying to the Court. The welfare and best interests of your son will be the first and most important factor when the Family Court makes its decision. The Court may allow your ex-husband to take your son on the trip but impose conditions, such as wearing a mask when appropriate.
If the problem does escalate, do your best to minimise any conflict with your ex-husband in front of the children. Children can be very sensitive to any tension between their parents and it can cause them a lot of stress.
Wearing a mask
Children are often influenced by the views of their parents. It is possible that your son will not wear a mask if his father is telling him it is not necessary. You should express your views to his father but also explain to your son why you think it is important.
Communication counselling
Communication is a challenge for many parents who have separated. If you are struggling to communicate with each other effectively, you should consider communication counselling. It would be helpful no matter which method of resolution you choose to pursue. You will have a co-parenting relationship for the rest of your child's life, so it is important you try to communicate well.
Conclusion
It is best to resolve any guardianship disputes between you and your ex-husband. Co-parenting often involves many decisions about your children. Where possible, an open dialogue between the two of you will be the most effective way to resolve disputes now and in the future.
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• Jeremy Sutton is a senior family lawyer, specialising in divorce cases where there are significant assets, including family trusts and complex business structures.