Q: Almost every year, my office's holiday party is scheduled to take place the weeknight before my biggest deadline of the year. And, as before, I'm planning on skipping the party. Apparently, this annoys some of my co-workers, who in previous years have sent me all-caps emails urging me to attend.
The thing is, even if I do find the time to make it to the party, I will probably be so preoccupied with the next day's work that I can't imagine being very good company. But I'm painfully aware that it looks bad for me not to go. Although I get along well with most everyone, my job requires a great deal of concentration in an open-plan office, and so I'm not always as friendly and approachable as I should be at work.
So do I try to attend and make the best of it, even if my presence doesn't add much? Or do I just live with my co-workers' disapproval? The party venue is very close - easily walking distance.
A: Ordinarily, deciding whether to attend a social event boils down to one question: Do you want to go? (I'm guessing you don't - call it a hunch.)
But a work event is no ordinary social event - especially if your absence will be noticed.