Where we have differences, like the death penalty or South China Sea, we have learnt to raise them respectfully and diplomatically, directly between officials, leaders and ministers, and not via the media.
This is a respect that must be maintained.
We often talk about a number of world "firsts" New Zealand shares with China. We were the first to welcome China into the World Trade Organisation and we were the first developed nation to sign a free trade agreement with them.
Since we signed our free trade agreement, trade between our countries has outpaced all expectations and has delivered huge dividends to the New Zealand economy.
In 2016, the then National Government began negotiations to upgrade our Free Trade Agreement (FTA). It was said at the time that the upgrade would be important in meeting the targeted of $30 billion of two-way trade by 2020 set by John Key and President Xi Jinping in 2014.
It is now time to set a new target. To double two-way trade from $30b to $60b over the next decade. Achievable — absolutely. With the right settings, concise and clear rules, a constructive relationship and a high quality upgrade to our FTA, it can happen.
The FTA upgrade needs to be completed to a very high standard this year. The quality of the upgrade needs to be another "first". It must be the launch pad to even greater highs for our trading relationship — it cannot be merely a box-ticking exercise.
Its completion should be our number one China priority this year.
The emerging dominance of e-commerce creates an opportunity to co-ordinate approaches between China and New Zealand and ensure a smooth flow of commerce and access for our companies and consumers. Clear rules to support e-commerce means every single New Zealander can share in the benefits of Chinese trade.
It must deal with non-tariff barriers and technical barriers to trade and delays at the boarder once and for all. It should push the barriers of residual tariff restriction for dairy exporters and should move to include the wood processing industry fully in the FTA.
The upgrade must also deliver on environmental protections, labour standards, intellectual property rules, and climate change. Only in this way will it be seen to be "comprehensive and progressive".
It will need to address investment and access, creating certainty for investors. It must be the platform for our engagement in the "Belt and Road" initiative.
New Zealand's approach to trade has always been ambitious and this ambition has delivered closer relationships, greater access to markets for our exporters, and created thousands of jobs here.
Our commitment to a bold trade agenda has helped to secure a strong and growing trade relationship with China. Just how committed we remain to an ambitious agenda will be judged by the speed and quality of the upgrade of the China New Zealand Free Trade Agreement.
● Todd McClay MP is the Member of Parliament for Rotorua and National's spokesman for Foreign Affairs, Trade and Tourism.