Last week I issued a challenge, suggesting that living in community involves having some responsibilities to one another; and that one of those responsibilities is thinking about how we might encourage more men to leave the bullying, violent and destructive lifestyle that is inherent to gang membership.
I finished by suggesting a couple of things that might be keys to solving this problem: helping people to imagine a better future and inspiring hope.
A couple of years ago I was talking to a woman who had been in a long-term relationship with a man who belonged to a gang. She told me that she had recently heard her partner telling her 16-year-old son not to join the gang; and not to live the life that he had lived.
Apparently he spoke quite passionately about all the grief and heartache and regrets that he had as a result of his gangster lifestyle. Her son responded by asking a very confronting question, "But if it's so bad, why are you still there?"
There are a number of difficulties that confront gang members who want to leave. Perhaps one of the most challenging is imagining a life outside of a culture they have come to see as their identity.