There are four pillars that support a sense of community. One of them is influence. Influence is not just about authority, prestige and power; but also authenticity, effectiveness and stewardship; concepts that sit nicely within the Maori concept of "mana".
In a new twist on the old saying "the first shall be last", sociologists say that "people who acknowledge that others' needs, values and opinions matter are often the most influential group members; while those who always try to dominate others and ignore the wishes and opinions of others are often the least powerful members".
Or to put it another way, those who have the most influence are those who give before they start asking others to do things.
Now the cynics out there might find what I am going to say next a little hard to swallow - but I'm going to take the risk.
Nearly every government in Western democracies like ours is rethinking what "good" looks like, in respect of the delivery of public services. That desire to find better ways of doing things has resulted in the development of a concept known as "public value".