Speaking to the bill last week some Members of Parliament became quite emotional. They shared stories of what they saw and experienced when their own family members and friends died. What they saw and how it impacted them.
Experiences good and bad can affect us for life. We don't forget; we are often shaped by them. Some people are lucky and have a good death, like dying in one's sleep, don't become ill, don't linger in pain with a terminal illness. Many die suddenly, doing what they love. Playing their favourite sport or being on an outing with family and friends. Here one minute, gone the next.
Just last week I was in Auckland at Maori TV waiting to be interviewed when I was informed the interview would not go ahead. A kaumatua attending a function at the studio had collapsed and died. This was, of course, upsetting for the family. I was pleased I could spend a short time with them before leaving the studio.
When I worked for West Auckland Hospice, I saw dedicated staff, and volunteers, helping terminally ill people to live well. People believe hospice is all about dying. I was often asked, "How can you work surrounded by dying people, it must be depressing?" No, it isn't. Hospice is about supporting people to have a good life for however long that might be. I know dying can be a painful experience. I have seen that too. One of New Zealand's foremost cancer specialists told me New Zealand needs to do better in pain management.
"We don't have sufficient expertise in this area available as widely as we should."
I have found this is always the area of most concern when talking to those with a terminal illness. We all know we are going to die. Hopefully, after a good life and the threescore and 10 years promised, more if we're lucky. But none of us wants a painful exit.
New Zealanders should be given the opportunity, by way of referendum, to have their voices heard on whether the End of Life Choice Bill should become law. A referendum will confirm one way or the other whether this is what the majority truly want.
Merepeka Raukawa-Tait is a Rotorua district councillor, Lakes District Health Board member and chairs the North Island Whanau Ora Commissioning Agency. She writes, speaks and broadcasts to thwart political correctness.