I personally do not feel guilty for what previous generations did. I don't see how I can be held responsible for the actions of previous generations.
However, I am deeply saddened and angry at what did happen to Māori as a result of Crown action or inaction. I feel I do have a responsibility to support efforts to enhance Māori wellbeing, outcomes and self-determination or mana motuhake, not out of a sense of guilt but out of a sense of natural justice.
I wonder if it's not so much people or institutions saying Pākehā should feel guilty or not be proud of who they are, rather it's an increase in profile and focus on te Ao Māori - for example, more use of te reo Māori on radio and television, and the current focus on Matariki.
Similarly, the profile of migrants from non-European countries is also rising. We enjoy the Indian celebration of Diwali, Chinese New Year and so on.
So maybe it's the absence of profile and focus on things Pākehā. I suspect that sometimes it may feel that Europeans 'don't have a culture' because it seems invisible, it's just 'the way we do things around here'.
Pretty much everything we do is based on Western models and systems. For example, our political, education, health and justice systems and Christian religion also came with the settlers, along with their luggage, when they migrated to New Zealand.
Many popular customs - holidays, weddings and funerals - are based on what happened in the Mother country. When I visited England in the 1990s the only difference I could tell between weddings in England and New Zealand was the preponderance to wear hats at English weddings.
I suspect there is the desire by some Pākehā to return to the way it was - the good old days, when life was simple. English was pretty much the only lingo spoken, food was pretty bland, gender roles were very clearly defined, and Governmental power was mostly held by white, middle-class males with the odd exception, such as Māori seats.
I think there is not only room for all of us and our traditions, customs and ways of doing things - including co-governance - but it makes New Zealand more exciting and interesting. I love learning different perspectives on the world, which in turn makes me better understand my own culture.
I welcome and enjoy hearing te reo Māori and other languages being spoken around me, I definitely enjoy the variety of cuisine. Until I moved to Melbourne, I thought Italian cuisine comprised pizza, spaghetti bolognese, lasagne and macaroni cheese. Imagine my amazement to discover the huge variety of Italian pasta and sauces – Ottimo!
I am very proud of the fact that Parliament is now far more representative of people in our communities. This may require a lot more negotiation, but also better reflects the values of all of us.
It's not either Pākehā/European 'or' Māori 'or' other cultures, it's 'and', 'and', as well as other ways of being and doing, that makes Aotearoa infinitely more interesting.
• Liz Davies is general manager at SociaLink