“If you die without a will, often the state [court] will decide what happens,” she said.
Boyes said the system was not always “very friendly toward the complexities of blended families”.
She said the courts might appoint a guardian, who might “not be your preferred option”.
Boyes believed the courts took into consideration family dynamics but ultimately made the final decision if no will was in place. A parent’s wishes for their child’s education might also be included in a will.
“For me personally, I wouldn’t want them making decisions about my children,” Boyes said .
She said she was part of a blended family herself and advised getting professional advice.
Boyes said wills could now be easily compiled online or by contacting the Public Trust.
Holland Beckett Law consultant Bill Holland said guardianship could be a very difficult decision “as it changes all the time as the child grows older”.
Holland said there was no standard arrangement for the guardianship of a child after a parental death, as each situation was different and was done in the best interests of the child.
He recommended leaving out specificities of a guardian’s name, as circumstances might change or it could impose a responsibility on a guardian that may not be appropriate at the time of a death.
Holland said different legal options were available for blended family dynamics, such as a life-interest will.
A life-interest will means “the surviving spouse has the benefit of assets during their lifetime” said Holland.
After their death, assets would go to the will-maker’s wishes.
Holland said sorting legal arguments was stressful for grieving family members.
He believed changes in circumstances, such as a marriage or a death in the family, indicated it might be time to update a will.
“Try to keep it simple. Review it and just have a look at it,” he said.
Te Ara Ahunga Ora Retirement Commission personal finance lead Tom Hartmann said not having a will in place could put a family into a “legal and financial minefield” during a time they need to be “grieving and regrouping”.