Her daughter was diagnosed with clinical depression and took medication for two years before she disclosed her abuse two years later.
“She lived in fear. Her whole demeanour changed. She showed extreme signs of separation anxiety for me, and began to eat a lot less,” she said.
“Following her disclosure, she informed me that every single day she had been afraid she might be arrested, she was filled with self -blame and shame.”
Hoey said this was “typical” behaviour of online perpetrators and advocated for all parents to get up to twice-annual “mandatory education” sessions around cyber crime.
“At the moment, I would say in my son’s class, he’s nine and in year 3, I am the only parent in that class who is vigilant,” she said.
“He is not allowed online at all unless he’s directly supervised by me or my husband.”
Also appearing at the joint inquiry, child safety advocate and victim of aggravated child sexual assault, Madeleine West said the issue of child online safety was “insidious”.
She also called for reform to reporting for victims, and increasing the likelihood of victims getting outcomes, quoting statistics from the Victorian Law Reform Commission that only 6.5 per cent of every 1000 child sexual assault cases achieve a conviction.
“I think that is what deters a lot of people and why the paradigm continues as it has,” West said.
“(It’s the) sensibility that even if I report, I’m not going to get an outcome. We need to change the narrative around that and fast.”