Te Papa's senior curator of Pacific Cultures Sean Mallon asked this identity question with a mix of provocation and genuine interest.
Is Pacific culture an inherent part of Kiwi identity? What do we think when we say the words Pacific Islander? Are Maori the first Pacific Island immigrants to New Zealand? How do we engage with some of our less proud moments of history, like the Dawn Raids in the 1970s, targeting people overstaying their visas, an operation which had strongly racist undertones?
What do you think? Are New Zealanders a sub-set of Pacific Islanders? We describe many of our Kiwi heroes as both New Zealanders and Pacific Islanders - but are we all? The late great Jonah Lomu might be both a Kiwi and a Pacific Islander, but what about Sir Edmund Hillary? As Mallon asked, what if Everest was conquered by a Pacific Islander?
How would government ministers approach climate change action if they thought of themselves as Pacific Islanders, with sea level rise already affecting our northern neighbours? How would a change in language affect our investment in narrowing the gaps between Europeans and Pacific Islanders when it comes to health, employment and life expectancy?
Mallon was asking for a deeper exploration of what makes us Kiwis. I think he had a good answer - we need "safe, provocative and meaningful" conversations to test and develop our sense of identity.
We talked about the Treaty of Waitangi, of course. I flashed back to the experiences I had as a seventh-former in 1990, 150 years after the Treaty's signing, when I attended a number of hui and went on a rollercoaster of emotions. It was a solid foundation to consider my place in New Zealand, without feeling vulnerable or guilty as a descendent of those who were part of the warts-and-all colonisation in the 19th century.
It really hit me - the important connections between our individual well-being and sense of identity. These conversations might be part of the prescription we need to respond to our negative statistics.
How do we stake our claim on New Zealand's soil without deeply examining and understanding our uncomfortable histories?
Nicola Young has worked in government and private sectors in Australia and New Zealand, and now works in Whanganui for a national charitable foundation. Educated at Wanganui Girls' College, she has a science degree and is the mother of two boys.