Tania Billingsley hasn't been a pleasing victim; too articulate, too politicised, too keen to sternly demand that heads roll.
Her extended media statement, produced while waiving anonymity in her sexual assault accusation against a Malaysian diplomat, doesn't elicit sympathy, though we'd be willing enough to give it. Rather, it ranges from justified anger at mismanagement of her case by police, politicians and diplomats, to admonishing the world at large for the fact that her experience happened, and some men do bad things.
I'd rather stick to her comments on "rape culture" than explore her polemic against the PM and others, while lauding Labour's David Cunliffe's odd lament for being a man. Rape Crisis couldn't have written a better plea on its behalf. And that's the problem: her statement reads as if produced by a press officer, not a 21-year-old woman in the wake of a trauma.
I hope she wrote it herself, but either way it was misjudged. Sexual assaults are nasty, it takes time to recover from brutality, and for most people politics doesn't instantly link with direct emotional experience. Anger at the botched investigation is one thing, and valid, but she veers off target. I want to empathise, I agree with much of what she says, but she gets in the way.
What bugs Billingsley's detractors is her obvious political standpoint, and, seemingly, a willingness to exploit her misfortune in the run-up to the election. Then there's her outline of what she calls rape culture, the way "our society normalises, trivialises and ... condones rape," continuing that women are obliged to see "all men as threats". Such comments enrage men who live decent, responsible lives as well as men who see any woman as fair game. But there she's on safer ground, whatever her big-picture politics, because we've all been there. It is a truth universally acknowledged by women that no man, however decrepit, disfigured, stupid, intelligent, obese or fitness freak, whether blood relation, stranger or criminal, rich, poor, or trusted friend, won't have moments of fancying his chances. Some - you can't predict which - will cross the line into criminal assault, and women are wise to be always alert.