Kissing and telling is a big cultural no no. But I'll do it anyway. What I think has been missing on kissing is an old school Miss Manners guide.
Let me be clear; I'm not talking passion here - that is all down to individual taste and is worth a whole other column - which won't be mine. What I'm trying to get to grips with is navigating the cultural diversity that is the new New Zealand when it comes to meeting and greeting. The average Kiwi Pakeha has an inbuilt body radar that gets set off should anyone breach the usual 200 mile fishing limit of personal space. The Anglos among us, of which I am one, get nervy on trains in Asia and uncomfortable with too much hugging or over eager back rubbing. The thought of having to live in a commune where everyone is always touching you on the arm as they greet is enough to start an asthma attack.
The Argentines however, are serial kissers. But there are still rules. I had to be taken aside after a discussion in a Buenos Aires staff room because of my complete disregard for kissing etiquette. I had failed to kiss everyone on the cheek on entering the staffroom. I had further offended everyone by failing to kiss everyone on leaving for the lunch break and on re-entering after every absence. A rare insight into why perhaps the national productivity was so atomically low.
Once I'd got into the swing of kissing everyone five times a day another korero was necessary to discuss exemptions. These included; the cleaner, the butcher, the cute pizza delivery boy and the homeless - in other words there was a kissing class structure. Despite this, delivery and execution of an Argy greeting is fairly straightforward; one cheek touch, kiss air, in-out - no drama.
And then I got invited to a powhiri. Man. I haven't been in many marae situations and I always feel slightly embarrassed in not feeling culturally competent in my own country. As we lined up to hongi nerves derailed my brain and I went into autopilot Argy greeting. The result was a kind of battleship galactica with noses and cheeks.