I'm sure people's fear of "me" comes from having "I" drummed into them as children but the lesson always seemed to lack the necessary proviso – it's only "I" if it's the subject of the verb as in, "My wife and I would like to thank you."
I can already hear people saying, "Okay, Mr Smartypants, why don't you explain it to us?"
Right! In the interests of English grammar I'm going to do it in a very short simplified explanation that avoids the use of technical terms such as nominative, accusative, hypotenuse and abdominal cavity.
Please excuse me for just a moment while I slip into teacher mode. Come on, there are still one or two people chatting up the back and if they don't pay attention they'll get a detention.
My foolproof method is simply to remove the first person in the mentioned pair. Let's take the sentence, "They gave face masks to Tom and..." At this stage you are trying to avoid "me" because you're scared of it.
But now, remove the "Tom and" and see what sounds right. I'm sure, unless silliness is your hobby, you would never say, "They gave face masks to I." That, quite simply, is why "They gave face masks to Tom and me" is correct. Not "I". Not "myself".
Quite simple really.
Another word that frightens people is "who" (or should that be "whom"?) I think, in general, the fear and confusion on this one has led to a relaxing of the rules but I still recommend using "whom" after a preposition.
There also appears to be a fear of using two words instead of one. The most common is "a lot". I'm sorry, but it is two words. Here is an extract from Wyn's Dictionary of Useful Stuff (yet to be published):
a lot – quite a few/many/an abundance.
allot – to share out or apportion.
alot - THERE IS NO SUCH WORD!
Now other versions appear to be following "a lot": "a bit"; "no one"; "thank you"; "every day" (yes, "everyday" is a word but it means "ordinary", not "each day").
And, now that we've entered daylight saving, why are so many people frightened of its proper name? Why do they feel the need to add an "s" making it sound like some sort of bank account?
Other words many people appear to be frightened of include "complement", "criterion", "led", "storey" and "pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis".
So there, I've had my say. I think these things are important. Thanks from my family and me.
Wyn Drabble is a teacher of English, a writer, musician and public speaker.