Yes, a kitten! No, seriously, it's a wee dinosaur. Why do people find it acceptable to ask questions like this? Many years ago we didn't have scans and we had to wait until our baby's arrival to announce their gender. Scans for determining the sex of our baby were perfected in the late 1950s but didn't really take off until the 1970s with many families choosing to know beforehand. Nowadays, around half of pregnant mums choose to find out what they are having, more and more are choosing to have a "surprise".
Have you thought of any names yet?
The age old question — names. This is such a hard topic, no doubt the person asking will have an opinion that they are quite happy to share with you. We all have names that we can associate with someone lovely and someone quite horrible. School, work, friends and life will help shape our decisions. Other things to consider when naming your baby are can it be shortened, do you want it shortened, what do the initials look like, will the name fit when they are an adult and so on, all important things to consider.
Will you use drugs during the birth?
Some of you may have the answer to this question already, and feel very strongly about it and others will take the "wait and see" approach and make a decision on the day. Either way, it's important that you gather evidence-based information that you need to make an informed decision, so you understand the pros and cons for you, and your baby for medical pain relief.
Should you be doing that in 'your' condition?
As long as you are not putting yourself or your baby in serious danger, you should be okay. While there are things you shouldn't be doing when pregnant, the biggest list involves food, because they may lead to listeria or be contaminated with toxoplasmosis or salmonella. You can find all sorts of contradictory information online, in books, and in magazines. Be reasonable, trust your instincts, and remember that erring on the side of caution is never a bad idea. If in doubt, speak to your LMC or health professional.
Can I give you some advice?
Run, run as fast as you can. Well-meaning advice, is advice and unless it's factual, actually backed up with evidence, it may pay to err on the side of caution for this question too. You are your own person, with thoughts, feelings, experiences and beliefs which may be completely different from the advice giver. Listen if you want, take on board the advice, but remember, you are unique, every single labour and birth is different, what worked or didn't work for them may be completely different for you. Thank them kindly, and walk away.
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Medical disclaimer: This page is for educational and informational purposes only and may not be construed as medical advice. The information is not intended to replace medical advice offered by physicians.