There are many definitions of democracy; "the art of the possible" is one.
This means that for democratic leadership to succeed the leader must command a majority, not just in electoral votes, but, once in office, public sentiment if his/her visions and aspirations are to be achieved. Sometimes they get it wrong and public opinion falls short of that needed for victory. Failure is an inherent risk of endeavour.
We saw such an outcome in the late amalgamation debate and we may, or may not, see it in the flag debate; two obvious examples of political leaders seeking to lead. The campaign to unify local government in Hawke's Bay failed decisively, and the issue has been laid to rest, or should have been. (No evocable image could possibly reignite the divisions of that debate more than Bill Dalton's graceless Christmas card. Is it its wit that excites the mirth? Or the humiliation of the Mayor of Hastings? You be the judge.)
But the issues of amalgamation, other than the debate itself, will receive no mention in this comment. This is about something else - the entitlement of dignity of those who democratically and publicly pursue their a vision, or what they believe to be a compelling cause. The lengthy amalgamation debate brought out the best and the worst in public discourse. Of the latter there was, in my view, far to much.
It came from both sides, but overwhelmingly from those opposed. Characterising those on the other side of the debate as "poor little rich girl", "little old lady in the twilight of her years", "Judas Iscariot", among other examples, denigrated the seriousness of the issue.