Richard "Chuck" Carter was my flatmate at Victoria University 30 years ago. He was a wild boy from Carterton, and also one of the University's top accounting students - highly intelligent.
I'd caught up with Richard intermittently in the years since - watched his unorthodox but successful career moves, seen him marry his long-time Hawke's Bay-raised and educated partner, Anna, and then become a family man. It was that family which brought him back to my attention this year in the worst possible way.
Richard is the father of Sarah Carter, the young New Zealand tourist who died mysteriously in Thailand in February after falling sick with two of her Kiwi friends.
From the time the incident became headline news, he has shouldered the burden of family spokesman. Initially it was about getting his daughter home - and his wife, who had learned the terrible fate of the eldest of her three children in an airport hallway en route to Sarah's hospital bedside.
Then there were services in Auckland and Wellington. I attended the Wellington service and heard of an intelligent, caring, promising young woman, and saw a devastated family.